An Inclusive Wedding Photo Experience: What Every Couple Should Expect

Every couple deserves to be photographed as themselves. No explaining, no editing, no bracing for an awkward comment. That is the whole idea behind an inclusive wedding photo experience.

Here is what it looks like in practice, and what to ask any photographer before you book.

What to expect from a photographer who means it

• Plain, welcoming language. Partner, spouse, couple. No assuming who is the bride, who is the groom, or who is the one who wanted the wedding.
• Your names and pronouns, used correctly. The first time, every time. A good photographer asks.
• Posing that fits you. You should not be pushed into roles or poses that feel like someone else’s idea of a wedding couple.
• Your family as it actually is. Blended families, step parents, chosen family, a parent who is not in the picture. See blended family wedding photos.
• Respect for your traditions. Cultural, religious, or secular. Bring what matters and expect it to be treated that way.
• Comfort and access. Seating, breaks, quiet spaces, and a plan if walking, standing, or crowds are hard for you or someone you love.
• A calm room. If a relative says something unkind, your photographer does not add to it.

Questions to ask before you book

• Have you photographed couples like us?
• Can I see a range of your work, not just one kind of couple?
• How do you decide on poses? Do you ask us first?
• How do you handle a complicated family list?
• What would you do if a guest made us uncomfortable?

You are not being difficult. You are hiring someone who will stand close to you on one of the most personal days of your life. Their answers tell you a lot.

How I see it

I photograph couples, not categories. You are welcome here, however your love and your family look. If something matters to you, just tell me so I know. After that, it is second nature.

Here is the thing. The best images come when people stop performing. That only happens when they feel safe. Everything above is how I try to get there.

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Frequently asked questions

What is an inclusive wedding photo experience?

One where every couple is welcomed, named and photographed as they are, without assumptions about gender, family, culture, or ability.

How can I tell if a photographer will be welcoming?

Look at the range of couples in their work, read how they talk to clients, and ask direct questions before you book. The tone of the first conversation says a lot.

Should I tell my photographer my pronouns?

Yes, if you want to. A good photographer will ask or listen, and use them correctly from the first conversation.

What if my family is complicated?

Tell your photographer early. A short list of who is in the photos, and who should not be put next to whom, makes the formals calm.

What if someone at the wedding makes us uncomfortable?

Tell your photographer or planner beforehand who to watch for. They can adjust the plan and keep the day on track.